| July 24, 2008 All
relationship problems are only problems because of misplaced
responsibility.
The moment you say,
"He/She didn't do this", or "He/She does that",
you're on the wrong track.
You can't control or be
responsible for any other adult's actions except your own. You
won't be judged on anyone's actions except your own.
No matter what it is about
the other person that irritates you or makes your life unbearable,
it is not about them, it's about you.
Example: Your
husband comes in to wash his greasy mechanic's hands in your kitchen
sink, splashing black water all over your dishes, wall and
floor. He ruins your dishtowels.
Why is it not his
fault? Because you allowed it to happen the first time and all
subsequent times without insisting he either...
There is first one step to
all problems, that is to work on yourself.
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You may need to set
boundaries to prevent certain events or activities.
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You may need to
communicate better with the people in your life so they know
exactly what you will allow and what consequences they will face
if boundaries are crossed.
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You may need to
establish the means to support yourself if you decide to leave
the relationship.
All problems have a
solution, even though we may not like to accept what it is.
No problem can be fixed
without first knowing what you want.
When you work on yourself
first, one of three outcomes will result...
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Your mate will make a
correction in his habits according to your request.
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You will leave the
relationship to create the life you desire.
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You may sometimes
experience a shift in your attitude as a result of pinpointing
what you want out of life, so that his current behavior no
longer bothers you.
May God bless you and open
your eyes to all possibilities!
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