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We all seek the same things - love, acceptance, healing and purpose.

We are all brothers and sisters under one God, one species, one planet.

I celebrate who you are, just as you are.




All relationship problems exist because we have not "grown up" into the character traits of God.  We don't have love, we have fear.  We don't have trust, we have suspicion.  We don't want to give, we want to receive.  

We have the mistaken idea that we need to think the same, believe the same and do the same things or something is wrong.

We also have not correctly assessed the character traits of our intended mates, so we choose people who also lack the mature qualities of God's design.

We then "play house" until we grow tired of the game, or a new "toy" (love interest) comes along and looks brand new and much more fun than our old one!  (Sounds like children, doesn't it?) 

Or we whine miserably, and stay in our pitiful relationships, bashing the opposite gender and missing the glorious life that God had intended for us.

So what ARE the qualities of God that we are supposed to grow into? They are highlighted in yellow below.

When you have perfect love, and understanding that God is for you, and that you are as equally valuable as anyone else on the planet, fear diminishes and then you can get on with your life.  You can treat others with respect, and expect to be treated with respect.  No one is respected who first does not respect others.

To be loved, you must give love, first to yourself!

2 Peter 1

2May grace (God's favor) and peace (which is perfect well-being, all necessary good, all spiritual prosperity, and freedom from fears and agitating passions and moral conflicts) be multiplied to you in [the full, personal, precise, and correct] knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.

    3For His divine power has bestowed upon us all things that [are requisite and suited] to life and godliness, through the [full, personal] knowledge of Him Who called us by and to His own glory and excellence (virtue).

    4By means of these He has bestowed on us His precious and exceedingly great promises, so that through them you may escape [by flight] from the moral decay (rottenness and corruption) that is in the world because of covetousness (lust and greed), and become sharers (partakers) of the divine nature.

    5For this very reason, adding your diligence [to the divine promises], employ every effort in exercising your faith to develop virtue (excellence, resolution, Christian energy), and in [exercising] virtue [develop] knowledge (intelligence),

    6And in [exercising] knowledge [develop] self-control, and in [exercising] self-control [develop] steadfastness (patience, endurance), and in [exercising] steadfastness [develop] godliness (piety),

    7And in [exercising] godliness [develop] brotherly affection, and in [exercising] brotherly affection [develop] Christian love.

    8For as these qualities are yours and increasingly abound in you, they will keep [you] from being idle or unfruitful unto the [full personal] knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).

    9For whoever lacks these qualities is blind, [spiritually] shortsighted, seeing only what is near to him, and has become oblivious [to the fact] that he was cleansed from his old sins.

    10Because of this, brethren, be all the more solicitous and eager to make sure (to ratify, to strengthen, to make steadfast) your calling and election; for if you do this, you will never stumble or fall.

    11Thus there will be richly and abundantly provided for you entry into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.






Let us change our attitudes and ask from God for knowledge and the changes in our lives that we need.  He's got the power and He gives the ability.

May God bless you and open your eyes to all possibilities!





Please take a look at the Living Contract, for people who live together or marry, or room mates.  This contract can show you both what you need to discuss and decide before hand, and give you the opportunity to say what you will and won't put up with and what constitutes breaking your contract.  Hopefully it can save couples from much grief and harm.

Read it here

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