The Situation.....

"Crystal":   My boyfriend's father kicked him out of the house because he wasn't paying the bills.  He doesn't get enough money to pay all of the bills and his parents aren't doing anything to put money into the house.

My parents let him move into our living room for now, but I think his parents should help him get a place to live and get established.  Isn't it their responsibility?  They're horrible to him.

"Lisa":  Crystal, it sounds like his family has a lot of problems. 

There isn't anywhere that I know of that's written in stone that a parent should set up an adult child in an apartment.  

I would hope most families would watch over their kids and make sure they were safe, but that's not always the case.

You realize, don't you, that you and your parents are putting yourself and your boyfriend at great risk to ruin your lives?

Unless you're both super-humans, you're very likely to become intimate, (given that you are living in a cozy, intimate environment), and if a child is made before you're financially ready, it can haunt you and harm you all the days of your life.

There is also the issue of how your parents will feel towards this boy if you get pregnant.  That will interfere with a happy future too.

Another issue you may not have thought of is that of how he was raised.  

You don't like what happened to him - how his parents treated him, but do you understand that a child lives out what they saw as a child?  He will grow up, have children of his own and treat them the same way.

Are you prepared to deal with that ugly situation, one without love in your home, when the time comes?

My Advice...

First, if you truly love this boy and intend to spend your future with him, get him out of your house as quickly as possible and on his feet or established in another relative's home until he's able to support you.

You won't be able to appreciate the wisdom of this yet, but one day you'll look back and wish you had understood.

Second, make him get counseling and talk with him at LENGTH about the proper way to raise and love children, and make sure he knows that you and your family WILL NOT accept anything less.

I will keep you in my prayers.

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